Reclaiming Eros

Don’t lose your power and magic to infatuation and other forms of relationship obsession, or to the longing for glittering objects. The positive aspect is that this is a propitious time to work on that. Many human beings are extremely vulnerable to romantic obsession, falsely believing that they can only find wholeness through capturing someone else. One of the most powerful enchantments or spells of the Babylon Matrix is the delusion that wholeness (the inner alchemical marriage of masculine and feminine, yin and yang, within) can be imported from the outside. Dominated by this delusion, a person becomes a ring wraith forever seeking “The Precious,” which may be the Hottie, money, celebrity or some other combination of outside objects and events. But wholeness can only be found where it already lies—within. I recommend the book Love 101 which the late Peter McWilliams generously posted free online. What follows are my favorite quotations from the book: The consuming desire of most human beings is deliberately to plant their whole life in the hands of some other person. For this purpose they frequently choose someone who doesn’t even want the beastly thing. I would describe this method of searching for happiness as [...]

Bring your masculine and feminine sides together to find your vision. From a neurological point of view, the highest creativity occurs when the right and left hemispheres are working together. Some people confuse androgyny (an intrapsychic orientation) with bisexuality (an interpersonal orientation) or hermaphrodism (an anatomical/genital anomaly). Hermaphrodism, as June Singer uses the term, means the confusion of masculine and feminine, an immature pastiche of qualities typical of rock stars and rock star wannabes, costumed adolescents, and also their admirers. But androgyny is a deep intrapsychic orientation, an integration, a fusion (not a confusion) of your archetypal masculine and feminine aspects. The androgynous person has creative access to the left and the right hemispheres, to critical thinking and intuition. From the Gnostic Gospel According to Thomas: “Jesus said to them: When you make the two one, and when you make the inner as the outer and the outer as the inner and the above as the below, and when you make the male and the female into a single one, so that the male will not be male and the female [not] be female…then shall you enter [the Kingdom].”

Don’t lose your power and magic to infatuation and other forms of relationship obsession, or to the longing for glittering objects. The positive aspect is that this is a propitious time to work on that. Many human beings are extremely vulnerable to romantic obsession, falsely believing that they can only find wholeness through capturing someone else. One of the most powerful enchantments or spells of the Babylon Matrix is the delusion that wholeness (the inner alchemical marriage of masculine and feminine, yin and yang, within) can be imported from the outside. Dominated by this delusion, a person becomes a Ring Wraith forever seeking “The Precious,” which may be the Hottie, money, celebrity or some other combination of outside objects and events. But wholeness can only be found where it already lies —within. I recommend the book Love 101 which the late Peter McWilliams generously posted free online. What follows are my favorite quotations from the book: The consuming desire of most human beings is deliberately to plant their whole life in the hands of some other person. For this purpose they frequently choose someone who doesn’t even want the beastly thing. I would describe this method of searching for happiness [...]

Erotic connection. Is it worthy or merely mechanical? That’s the extremely short version. If you want to probe more deeply, consider the following dream and my interpretation as well as the links that follow: The dreamer is a young man, about twenty-four years old. Here’s his narration of his dream: In my dream, I was walking around a field with a coworker from Olympia. She told me that one of her friends was addicted to masturbating to pictures of abortions. I told her that I was having just the opposite problem, because I really liked pregnancy. That seemed to make her feel extremely uncomfortable, so she stopped talking to me. On the ground, I found this crystal that had a little human soul with a male and a female face right next to each other. I recognized it to be a fetus (though it bore no resemblance to a real life fetus) and turned it around, noting how the male/female faces almost seemed to fade into one another if I turned the crystal in the proper light. Kind of like a hologram. The scene jumped to where I was at a house party with a bunch of people dressed up [...]

There are some people that we are connected to by inner ties and this is something we will sense deep inside. But be careful, infatuation can create a false positive. In the case of infatuation we feel a deep inner stirring, but it us falling in love with the image of a split-off part of our own soul. Sometimes we will be infatuated with someone who is also a soulmate. The infatuation projection is what will most likely keep us apart. This image also represents the deeply entwined relationship between eros and your psyche or soul. Eros is something much more than sex. It refers to our capacity for oceanic merger with others. Pornography is unerotic sex on the level of the genitalia, while a sufficiently deep platonic relationship could be highly erotic. The path we follow with our eros usually parallels our soul. Someone could succeed in athletics, in business, in some career track or area of tunnel intelligence while neglecting or abusing his eros, but this will be a very hollow success. What advantage is there in gaining a lot of conquests, or neglecting your eros while busily pursuing something else if you lose your own soul in [...]

M. Scott Peck has an interesting definition of love: “I define love thus: The will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.” Someone once said that, “Love is cool, it is not hot.” It is crucial to distinguish love from passion, infatuation, codependence and sentimentality. It is also said that love is a verb, not a noun. What you love is what you spend time on. Sometime in the Nineties an eighty-year-old woman, who was a Jungian analyst, gave a talk I attended in Boulder. At the end of her talk there were questions from the audience and the first one came from a young woman. “Now that you are an elder,” asked the young woman, “what can you tell me as a young woman about love?” The elder woman replied, “When I was your age I was desperately trying to be loved. But now I know that it is better to simply be love.” A few love quotes: “In real love you want the other person’s good. In romantic love you want the other person.” — Margaret Anderson “You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing [...]

Bring your masculine and feminine sides together to find your vision. From a neurological point of view, the highest creativity occurs when the right and left hemispheres are working together. Some people confuse androgyny (an intrapsychic orientation) with bisexuality (an interpersonal orientation) or hermaphrodism (an anatomical/genital anomaly). Hermaphrodism, as June Singer uses the term, means the confusion of masculine and feminine, an immature pastiche of qualities typical of rock stars and rock star wannabes, costumed adolescents, and also their admirers. But androgyny is a deep intrapsychic orientation, an integration, a fusion (not a confusion) of your archetypal masculine and feminine aspects. The androgynous person has creative access to the left and the right hemispheres, to critical thinking and intuition. From the Gnostic Gospel According to Thomas: “Jesus said to them: When you make the two one, and when you make the inner as the outer and the outer as the inner and the above as the below, and when you make the male and the female into a single one, so that the male will not be male and the female [not] be female…then shall you enter [the Kingdom].”

Romantic relationships and blind spots so often go together. This is easy to see with others, difficult and painful to see about ourselves. Don’t lose your power and magic to infatuation and other forms of relationship obsession, or to the longing for glittering objects. The positive aspect is that this is a propitious time to work on that. Many human beings are extremely vulnerable to romantic obsession, falsely believing that they can only find wholeness through capturing someone else. One of the most powerful enchantments or spells of the Babylon Matrix is the delusion that wholeness (the inner alchemical marriage of masculine and feminine, yin and yang, within) can be imported from the outside. Dominated by this delusion, a person becomes a ring wraith forever seeking “The Precious,” which may be the Hottie, money, celebrity or some other combination of outside objects and events. But wholeness can only be found where it already lies ‚Äî within. I recommend the book Love 101 which the late Peter McWilliams generously posted free online. What follows are my favorite quotations from the book: The consuming desire of most human beings is deliberately to plant their whole life in the hands of some other [...]

Time to join with those to whom you are connected by inner ties. Finding your community of spiritual allies, your hermetic circle. If you are reading this card, then it is overwhelmingly likely that you are incarnating as a social mammal. As a social mammal, so much of the pain and pleasure, so much of the suffering and meaningfulness and fulfillment of your incarnation relates to the other social mammals in your life. No amount of money or sexual conquests will ever begin to compensate you for a lack of soulmate relationships. Relating to random acquaintances and relating to soulmates are two entirely different dimensions. Many people make the mistake of taking their profound inner longing for deep connection and projecting it onto the fantasy of finding that one, all-luminous romantic soulmate. But it would make for a more interesting, varied and developmental incarnation if you had multiple soulmates, and many different kinds of life-affirming relationships. What you are looking for are those to whom you are connected by inner ties. All other attributes may vary with the fantastical variety of human individuality. There is, however, one aspect I especially recommend you evaluate in prospective tribemates — -commitment to consciousness. [...]

Feelings of inferiority can lead to enslaved infatuations and codependencies. The drawing of this card could indicate such feelings in you or someone close to you. A classic example of human bondage is the person in a relationship with someone he considers much better looking. Feeling inferior to the beloved, he enslaves himself, encouraging the other to manipulate the asymmetry of power. Is there any sort of situation you are in where you find yourself compromising your inner dignity? There are many types of human bondage, but all of them involve a compromise of inner dignity. Is there any sort of situation where you are asking someone else to compromise his inner dignity? Another type of human bondage is the wage-slave scenario where a job demands that you compromise your inner dignity in return for a paycheck. Most of us not born into extreme wealth have experienced this form of bondage. The price of freedom is eternal vigilance about the subtle and not so subtle forms of human bondage.