Understanding eros, love and sexuality

© graffiti sign indicating gender separated  restrooms at BC music festival © 2005, 2011 Jonathan Zap “I am in some sense boundless, my being encompassing the farthest limits of the universe, touching and moving every atom of existence. The same is true of everything else…It is not just that ‘we are all in it’ together. We all are it, rising and falling as one living body.” Francis Cook  (location of Godhead) When Jesus was asked, “When will the kingdom come?” He replied: “It will not come by waiting for it…Rather, the Kingdom of the Father is spread out upon the earth, and men do not see it.” Jesus also said, “…the Kingdom is inside of you, and it is outside of you.”  —Gospel of Thomas, Gnostic Gospels “God is nearer to me than I am to myself; He is just as near to wood and stone, but they do not know it.”  —Meister Eckart Note: This is a working copy of an unfinished treatise on androgyny as the key to unlock many of the mysteries of: the 6,000 years of Feminine-hating dominator societies that continue to rule our world, key forms of religious extremism, the torturous enchantments of romantic relations, [...]

Awakening from uneasy dreams, I was aware of myself as a self-reflecting starship. For a few moments I lingered in that warpy place between dreams and wakefulness, still feeling partly caught up in some painful drama with another starship that had played itself out as I slept. Slowly the dream faded, and the waking consciousness returned—that all-too-familiar sense of myself as a middle-aged starship, about halfway through its lifecycle in an era where well-maintained starships often lasted a century.

Stephen Colbert, a visionary Gen-X comedian who is especially popular with Millennials (unedited, rough draft) © 2011 Jonathan Zap An interesting trend I’ve noticed on Facebook is that young guys, who are mostly known to be heterosexual, and who usually have higher-than-average social status, make graphic statements about loving gay sex as jokes. For example, a probably heterosexual twenty-one-year-old student at CU posted a Facebook status update: “I love the way cock feels in and around my mouth.” Friends left good-natured comments going with the joke. In another such status update I noticed this morning, a very high status nineteen-year-old-male who is known to be popular with girls, has a bit of a reputation as a street fighter, and works in heavy construction posted: “now that i let some dude finish in my mouth i want in the butt.” Friends then posted comments that seemed to share in the joke, but without being mean-spirited, e.g. “ha, ha, I’m stoked.” They were all laughing with, not at, the joker. As a student of popular culture who writes about the evolution of sexuality (see http://www.zaporacle.com/eros-love-and-sexuality/ for some of my essays on the subject), I find this extremely interesting. But I also recognize [...]

The personal quest for human beauty may be an urge to phase shift…

Another star in the galaxy of souls, one out of the six or seven billion
Swarming across this rotating, orbiting ball in space,
Comes spinning into my trajectory,
And we converge,
For a time we form a binary orbit,
Weak and strong forces push and pull,
We exert tidal forces on each other—
My weather changes, but so does yours.

You are a planet orbiting with me, the other.
And you have spin and counter spin,
But then, so do I

You are Not Another Mammal—Navigating Eachness and Oneness in Mammalian Incarnation. Another mammal is not an organ of your body. Your body has all its own parts. Another mammal is not you, or another side of you, your psyche has all its own parts.

f you are not particularly interested in Burning Man don’t be turned away, because the topics covered go far beyond this one event and include:

Transforming our Thanatos Self
Radical Self Reliance
Magic Ritual and Self Importance
Approaching a Mutant Nexus
Rapidly Shifting and Parabolic Zeitgeists
The Eros of the Present Era—how our Sexuality is Shaped by the Pendulum of Enantiadromia
Examples of Mind Parasites and Vampires
The Evolutionary Event Horizon
A Logos Beheld
Alex Grey on the American Dream and the Eye of God
Virtual Reality
Awakening from the Default Reality

Someone just asked me to state what my intentions were in relating to them. What a great question and if only it were asked (and answered) more often and more honestly! Sometimes we question the intentions of others, but forget to question our own mixed intentions which are even more important for us to recognize and acknowledge. So consider receiving this a propitious time to ask yourself about your intentions to the other, and it may be more powerful if you commit your answer to writing. To start the process off I am going to share my intentions toward the other.

This brief paper was written in the Eighties when I was a grad student at NYU. It discusses the principle of enantiodromia—the tendency for extremes to result in a counter movement into equal and opposite extremes. This principle is particularly applied to eros and spirituality and illustrated by an analysis of Thomas Hardy’s novel, Jude the Obscure. Enantiadromia and eros are particularly relevant right now as we are living through a counter movement to centuries of sexual repression where promiscuity has, in many parts of society, become the expected norm.

Western romance mythology centers around being in love as an ecstatic state in which we feel we have been completed, found the ultimate meaning in life, and have larger than life feelings of intensity. Unconsciously we have the expectation that our lover provide us with these feelings continuously. We also assume that our model of romance is the best and that love relationships not based on “being in love” must be pale, insignificant shadows by comparison. We are convinced of this despite all the evidence that tells us that few enterprises, besides diets, begin with such high hopes and typically such dismal results as the falling in love sort of romances.